Dear first time mummy me.

Dear first time mummy me,

First things first, step away from those baby shoes. Have you done it? Good. They’re useless. Seriously cute but oh so seriously useless. Save the money for coffee and cake… trust me you’ll need it.

Now we’ve covered that let’s get to it…

One of the first real big decisions you’re going to have to make (if the decision isn’t out of your hands like it was to some extent in our case) is whether you chose to bottle or breast feed. Breastfeeding is natural and full of health benefits for you and baby, its a beautiful bonding experience and can even help you lose the baby weight quicker, but, it’s not necessarily the easiest option. It can be hard, time consuming and lonely and that’s even on some of the good days. You will need to do what’s best for you and your baby and don’t let anyone shame you into their choice. Bottle feed? Breast feed? Combination feed? Whichever you choose IS the right one.

Parenting is hard, especially on the first. It’s all so new and real and hormones are all over the place. Don’t over react to the first cold, don’t blame it on the you stopping to breastfeed (that was just a coincidence). You don’t need to go out and buy a humidifier (which isn’t cheap and will only be used once) and feel guilty that you couldn’t prevent it. Babies (like everyone) get sick. Do what you would if you had a cold. Make sure baby has plenty of rest and fluids and to help soothe and relax use something like Vicks Babyrub, it contains extracts of aloe vera and fragrances of lavender and rosemary. Not only will it smell amazing it will also moisturise and comfort the baby as your massaging it in and a happy, comforted baby makes for a happy parent!

Don’t be afraid to ask for help and make sure you put yourself out there to make friends with people who have kids of a similar age. It really will get you through, not only the bad days but it makes those good days better when you can share them with people that ‘get it’ too. Accept there will be bad days, cry if you need to. There’s no shame in crying or saying you are having a bad day. A good support system will be amazing but even with that you’re allowed to think parenting is a bit much sometimes.

With that in mind you need to make sure you take care of yourself. How can you take care of someone else if you don’t give yourself the time you need to recharge? Find a YouTuber you like, a blog you enjoy reading or even monthly visits to the hairdressers? If you’re really lucky you may even get a cup of tea that’s still warm or a chocolate bar you didn’t have to hide somewhere to eat!



This parenting stuff is hard, don’t let anyone tell you any differently but guess what? It really REALLY is worth it… and if it wasn’t why would we be doing it again?


Until the next post,

Are and Pops.



This post is an entry for BritMums #VicksBabyRub Challenge, sponsored by Vicks BabyRub. Specially designed for babies aged 6 months and over, Vicks BabyRub is available at Boots, Superdrug, Tesco, Asda, Waitrose and all good pharmacy chains. RRP £3.99


  1. Mar 18, 2018 / 6:10 pm

    It is amazing how much we learn along the way and I loved your tips for a first-time mum. Commenting for myself and on behalf of BritMums and thanking you for taking part

  2. gemma
    Apr 28, 2018 / 11:26 pm

    Amazing advice and completely spot on !!!!

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